Chen Lizra is a Somatic Intelligence life coach, TED Speaker, award-winning social entrepreneur, best-selling author, and professional dancer. She is the owner of the website Power of Somatic Intelligence, a global community of change-makers wishing to elevate their performance in every area of their lives, pushing themselves beyond what they thought they were capable of, and understanding that they are only bound by the limits they create. Chen is relentless in her ambition to help bring meaningful change to every client she works with.
Where did you grow up and what was your childhood like? Did you have any particular experiences/stories that shaped your adult life?
The biggest thing that shaped my life as a child was when my mom got mentally sick when I was at the tender age of 11. Needing to have motherly love and support, and then losing my mom to her mental illness, was devastating. It broke my confidence, lowered my self-worth, hurt my healthy boundaries, and damaged my ability to lean on others and trust, to name a few. But it also sent me on a voyage around the world to look for answers on how to heal my body and my mind. And this led to an incredibly rich life journey between the shadow and the light that led to what I do today and why I can help so many shift their lives and live to their fullest potential. I feel truly grateful.
What is something you wish you would’ve realized earlier in your life?
How to develop emotional resilience and how to really embody my femininity and come back home to my body.
I lost my resilience due to what happened with my mom. It took a lot of years to find a way to process and unpack what was there, and to heal myself. I searched high and low for what works and very few things around the world worked for me. As a result, I found a real human treasure and now I share it through my project The Power of Somatic Intelligence. I wish this wisdom was more widely available to people.
One of the key things is that I figured out how to develop emotional resilience. I think that if there is one thing that we have all learned from the past year is that emotional resilience is crucial for our wellbeing. It’s something you don’t want to develop once things all apart but way ahead of it. You need a strong habit… For that, you need to work on it all year long. So I accumulated all of the powerful daily somatic practices I use and put them into one powerful program that truly transforms lives. I have seen crazy amazing shifts in people that are taking it. My hope is that this will make it available to more and more people. Emotional resilience is one of the key ingredients to a healthy happy life. This wisdom should be taught in schools.
At the same time, my femininity was hurt because I was hurt, and I’ve put up walls to protect myself. Our femininity is connected to our ability to feel whole, soft, vulnerable, without being afraid to show up emotionally, and even learning how to use it for success. A good example is diffusing moments of conflict etc. So, it took a long time to find the way back home to my body, to myself as a woman, and to my femininity. It took a lot of healing to let go of what hurt me and to come back to my true nature. Which led me to launch this gorgeous retreat for women. Every woman deserves to feel this amazing about herself. And every family and community deserves to have their women lead from such a grounded, soft, and powerful place. Imagine how our societies would be if women were fully embodied in their femininity. Then we’d need to heal men’s masculinity.
Tell me about one of the darker periods you’ve experienced in life. How you came out of it and what you learned from it?
As I shared before, my mom’s mental illness was one of the hardest points in my life. I was spinning out of control for ten years with suicidal thoughts. I could not bear my reality nor escape it. I hit rock bottom after 10 years. I then had to make a choice – to live or die. I’m still here so we know what I chose lol. What I have learned from this challenging journey is what it means to come back to my body, to myself, what it means to meet myself fully and love myself in my mistakes, to expand beyond my comfort zone, and to venture out to new worlds inside and outside of me, to be compassionate, to heal others through a felt experience that corrects the damage that was caused to the nervous system, to feel the divine feminine in my body and to embody the magical sabrosura (our innate sensuality connected to motherly love), and then share this beautiful gift with the world. Now, hold on… let me take a big breath… phewww Ha ha ha
What is one thing that you do that you feel has been the biggest contributor to your success so far?
Two of my keys to success are integrity and authenticity. I show up as my true self and I do my best to work with transparency. I also work with very high integrity and instill this in my team. Clients tell me that it’s this authenticity and integrity that makes them join and trust my team and me. We also really care and are not there to just collect your money. We are here to root for your success and to make sure you really get your transformation by supporting you through the process and in our community. Not every company cares in such a personal way.
What is your morning routine?
I wake up at 6 am in the morning and I make up my bed, take a shower, drink something, and do about half an hour of meditation. Some days I also do yoga for 30-60 minutes. I try to start my day by grounding myself and then jumping in. This time in the morning to connect with my core is essential for my focus, calmness inside, and ability to lead my team in a focused way. But I also use my somatic practices throughout the day to ground myself, bring my energy to the base, and be fully present. If I didn’t have my somatic practices everything would look different. Most of the time I am grounded, calm, centered, focused, and joyful. I looooove playfulness.
What habit or behavior that you have pursued for a few years has most improved your life?
Connecting to my feminine divine. I keep growing, learning, evolving… when I find something that’s super deep and impactful, I dive deeper. There are two things I have pursued for the past few years – healing my ancestral line and shamanic healing. Both have changed my life completely to my core, and as such, I include them in all the programs I offer, and also in one on one coaching with me.
If they impact me, I know they will impact others. These pearls of wisdom go so deep into our basic programming and they shift something at our core. Feeling the feminine divine in my body has been a game-changer in the last few months. The quality of my life has gone up and my capacity to love, soften, and share myself vulnerably. This also gives me more availability with my coaching clients. I know that due to what I experienced in life – the light and the shadow – my range is pretty wide, wider than most coaches I know. I can walk to the edge and not fall over or be scared. So, it allows me to be with clients in pretty difficult places and to bring this amazing loving energy to this place inside them and help them heal. To me, that’s what commitment to living in greatness and in service of others means.
What are your strategies for being productive and using your time most efficiently?
A clear plan, a clear mind, a strong commitment, a great team, and powerful guidance. Not to mention a strong support system around me to help me perform at top performance.
And also, keeping a good balance between responsibility and fun/pleasure. My priorities and balance in life are very clear and I make sure to not drop any ball in my life, even if it’s hard. It’s a more holistic approach to being happy. I don’t neglect my health, relationships, nutrition, exercise, etc. It’s a constant balancing act. If I unplug from work and social media on the weekend and I am fully present and enjoying myself, I am super productive right after. It allows me to love what I do, and do what I love.
Do you have any quotes you live by or think of often?
A shamanic abuela (grandma) in the Colombian tradition said to me: “Sanas una mama, sanas una familia entera.” You heal a mother, you heal a whole family. This stuck with me. The energy of the divine feminine from the mother goes into boys and girls and gives them the ability to live a healthy life mentally and to love unconditionally and softly. I see so many that have a hard time getting into loving relationships and healing their somatic imprint that’s impacting what is possible for them in life. The somatic imprint is what goes into you as a child by copying from your environment, what was transferred to you from generation-to-generation– knowingly or unknowingly. And we can heal this. So, this sentence truly landed for me profoundly.