Kate Rose is an artist, free thinker, lover, writer, passionate yogi, mother, rule breaker, relationship coach, motivational speaker, and rebel. She helps people put the puzzle pieces of their hearts together through Life and Love Counseling.
Where did you grow up and what was your childhood like? Did you have any particular experiences/stories that shaped your adult life?
I grew up an only child to a single mother for the first twelve years of my life before remarrying to a wonderful man I’m blessed to call my father. My biological father was diagnosed with Schizophrenia when I was six months old and so for most of my childhood when I did visit with him, he didn’t remember that he had a daughter. This was truly such a painful but beautiful wound that helped shaped this journey of mine.
What we sometimes fail to recognize is that what happens to us in childhood is as much responsible for what we don’t become as it is for what we do. And that it is often the most hurtful and painful moments that we experience which work to polish us so one day we shine even brighter.
What is something you wish you would’ve realized earlier in your life?
How much I actually create my own reality by what I tell myself. Most of us don’t quite understand how much our lives are shaped by the words and thoughts that we have. By changing how we think and how we talk to ourselves-we change our lives.
What are bad recommendations you hear in your profession or area of expertise?
The worst by far is to wait for your twin flame to return. No matter of title, if a connection truly is divine and we are meant to be together in this life then nothing will be able to keep you apart. The best thing we can do in terms of love is to simply accept the reality at this moment, let go of anyone or anything we’re hanging onto and trust what is meant for us will always find us.
Tell me about one of the darker periods you’ve experienced in life. How you came out of it and what you learned from it?
One of the darkest moments in my life was when I thought I had lost the man who meant the world to me. The man that it seemed so much of my life directed me towards. Losing him, or what I had perceived as losing him, made me question everything in my life.
I struggled to find meaning, to find the feeling, and to even know how to define myself without him.
But again, it is our darker moments that we most often need to be able to step into our light and so I did just as I described above. I accepted reality, I let go of whatever seemed it didn’t want to say and I trusted.
In that process, I learned a lot about myself, about love-and even about him-so that when the universe brought us back together I could show up as a better version of myself for both him and I.
What is one thing that you do that you feel has been the biggest contributor to your success so far?
I’ve allowed myself to be guided. I don’t force something that isn’t meant to happen and I am patient trusting that everything happens at exactly the perfect right time.
What is your morning routine?
I am a single mum which means while I would love to wake at 7 am with a green juice in hand and hit my mat every day-it doesn’t happen. And I like variety. Some days I do yoga in the morning with a smoothie and meditate, others I go for a walk, snuggle in bed a bit longer, or maybe not go to bed at all and watch the sunrise with the man in my life.
I let each day begin exactly as it’s meant to.
What habit or behavior that you have pursued for a few years has most improved your life?
Meditation and yoga were the most significant turning point in my life that I had found during my divorce and that has carried me through to today. Knowing ourselves and getting into that space of allowing instead of forcing is one of the most valuable tools we can access in life.
What are your strategies for being productive and using your time most efficiently?
Do all things with passion. When we truly are invested in a dream, when it feeds a part of our soul and is part of our purpose time is irrelevant. If we’re forcing ourselves to do something that our hearts just are in then it will seem like we never have enough. Do all things with passion-but remember it won’t mean you’ll be able to do everything. Trust that what is meant to get done in a day will and that if you wake each day just as fired up and alive to work on your dream as today then it will keep happening again and again.
What book(s) have influenced your life the most? Why?
My mother was a children’s librarian so I grew up with books. As an only child, they were my siblings that I would curl up with on a beanbag under her desk. As I grew this love of books only grew and the way the words of some take root in our hearts as we read them until they blossom differently. For me, the work of Don Miguel Ruiz has been some of the most soul-enriching work, along with Soul Shifts by Barbara De Angelis and A Course in Miracles.
Do you have any quotes you live by or think of often?
“It’s not about you” What someone chooses or doesn’t choose to do has nothing to do with us and everything to do with them.