Owen Fitzpatrick is a bestselling author, psychologist, and leadership development coach. He trains and coaches executives to be better at impacting others. Fitzpatrick is the founder of Owen Fitzpatrick International (OFI), a professional training and coaching company based in Dublin, Ireland.
Where did you grow up and what was your childhood like? Did you have any particular experiences/stories that shaped your adult life?
I struggled with depression and low self-esteem as a teenager which was the drive that propelled me into my career. Suicidal for a while, I got to experience the mental pain and anguish of seeing the world in an awful way. I fought my way through it and wanted to help others to do the same. It drives me to this day.
What is something you wish you would’ve realized earlier in your life?
To care less about the things that don’t matter. To lower your expectations of others and the world. To act bigger and have my own back more. That darkness provides you with the chance to become stronger. The world does things for you, not just to you.
What are bad recommendations you hear in your profession or area of expertise?
Just think positive. (it’s not nearly enough and not always a good idea)
‘This’ is the only right path. (anyone who is certain their approach is the only right approach, I am skeptical of)
You have every answer inside you. (you have what you need inside you but sometimes the answer comes from your experiences or lessons you learn along the way)
Tell me about one of the darker periods you’ve experienced in life. How you came out of it and what you learned from it?
Depression when I was younger. Heartbreak at various times in my adult life. It took some time and I grew from it. Eventually, you realize that all will be okay again and you will move forward and on. It’s important to stay vigilant and guard against your mind convincing you of what isn’t true. Depression is a liar. Let it have its say and move past it. No matter how bad it feels, those kinds of feelings don’t last forever.
What is one thing that you do that you feel has been the biggest contributor to your success so far?
Execution. Create and Execute. Perfection is impossible so I improve by practicing in real life.
What is your morning routine?
I wake up. If I’m feeling good I don’t use one. If I’m not, I do what I need to in order to change that. That could be exercise, reading, music, or writing.
What habit or behavior that you have pursued for a few years has most improved your life?
Take care of myself and make sure there is always time for fun.
Be structured and know my schedule well.
Consistently learn at every available opportunity.
Relearn what I already know. Just because I ‘know’ something doesn’t mean I really ‘know’ something enough to do it consistently.
What are your strategies for being productive and using your time most efficiently?
I structure my objectives and strategies. I organize my priorities. I always get clear of exactly what I want to do. I decide on how quickly I can get it done. I focus and get it done in the time I give myself.
What book(s) have influenced your life the most? Why?
Books by Dr. Richard Bandler as NLP made a huge impact on my life growing up. (Using your Brain for a Change, Frogs into Princes)
Books by Robert Anton Wilson as I learned to see things from multiple perspectives. (Prometheus Rising, Quantum Psychology)
There are so many others!
Do you have any quotes you live by or think of often?
“Raise your expectations of yourself. Lower your expectation of the world.” Can’t remember where I heard this but find it so useful.