Trudi Pavlovsky is Australia’s Happiness Coach. She helps humans get back their positive vibe which then helps them bring their big picture goals to reality through busting mindset barriers and rewriting old stories to pave a glittered path towards happiness and success. Pavlovsky is an established and accredited life coach and former NLP trainer for The Life Coaching Academy who has years of experience in NLP, Reiki, performance coaching, hypnosis, executive presentation training, and experiential game creation to design unique and immersive experiences for a lasting and true transformation.
Where did you grow up and what was your childhood like? Did you have any particular experiences/stories that shaped your adult life?
I grew up in the country. I was bullied, abused and due to my parents’ divorce and religious trauma I was the weird kid.
I was isolated and I isolated myself as a coping mechanism.
The catholic priest would always make the naughty kid in the examples he taught. After the loss of my cousin, our family dog, and getting made fun of at school I denounced my faith in grade five and refused to do my confirmation. This combined with trauma from sexual abuse and bullying put me on a total path of separation, depressions, drug abuse in my twenties, inability to maintain relationships, and not a lot of hope.
The final part of my healing was completed in 2018 and allowed me to go even deeper into healing my past.
What is something you wish you would’ve realized earlier in your life?
The importance of getting a solid education around money and investing. I really hung onto the poor kid tag I was given as a child by some of the kids in school. I would have found a way to invest in my twenties if I had understood the importance.
What are bad recommendations you hear in your profession or area of expertise?
People telling brand new coaches they need a website as soon as they are qualified.
You go through so much refining as a coach in those first few years I would never tell someone to get a website until at least 6 even 12 months into the business.
Get confident with your niche and work first. Save the money until you’re ready to drive traffic to the site and really capitalize on it.
Tell me about one of the darker periods you’ve experienced in life. How you came out of it and what you learned from it?
After being drugged and raped by my boyfriend and his friend (I only knew about it as they filmed it and I got the footage) things became bleak for a good six months. I decided to end my life but it didn’t work.
My big lessons from that were:
I have a bigger purpose.
I am the one common denominator in my life so how can I take personal responsibility in my life?
No one is coming to rescue me, it’s up to me to make decisions that move me towards what I want.
Trust your gut.
What is one thing that you do that you feel has been the biggest contributor to your success so far?
I work on my belief systems and structures. I study science-based practice and spiritual practice and bring those things together to support my growth.
What is your morning routine?
- Alarm goes off at 6:30 am
- Visualise my daily actions and outcomes
- Get up and feed cats
- Drink a mug of hot water
- Meditate if I’m feeling tired
- Stretch if feeling it
- Work for a few hours.
- Shower and dress
- Coach clients
- No client calls do marketing/business things.
- Walk 10000 steps
- Screens down by 6 pm
- Relax and watch some TV /Netflix with my partner.
- Check email
- Prep for bed by washing my face, brushing my teeth.
- Bedtime and sometimes play a hypnosis track as I go to sleep.
What habit or behavior that you have pursued for a few years has most improved your life?
If I don’t play music or sing most days I get really flat. It’s a great way of expressing feelings and moving and staying in my body. Music is my personal medicine.
I can sometimes tend to disconnect although that is also a practice I worked on a lot. Staying present in my body.
What are your strategies for being productive and using your time most efficiently?
Do the hard task first.
Don’t put more than five things on your daily to-do list.
Pomodoro technique is great, especially for those tasks you keep putting off.
Make sure you have fun things in your day!
What book(s) have influenced your life the most? Why?
Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway by Dr. Susan Jeffers was the first personal development book I read twenty years ago. I still remind myself that belief lies on the other side of action. (That’s also relevant for the next question.) The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks was another one and The Road Less Travelled by M. Scott Peck. These books honour my uniqueness, experiences and have helped me make sense of my past to craft a better future for myself.
Do you have any quotes you live by or think of often?
“Belief lies on the other side of action.”
“My mission is bigger than me, keep going.”