Jackie Christiansen is a network marketing/MLM industry top sales leader and trainer and a certified nutritionist. She created, built, and managed international teams in the health and wellness industry. Christiansen currently works as the Director Of Operations at Starting Hearts, a nonprofit health and wellness company whose mission is to save the lives of sudden cardiac arrest victims.
Where did you grow up and what was your childhood like? Did you have any particular experiences/stories that shaped your adult life?
This is a tough one to share but I think that many people who have gone through similar experiences need to hear it. I grew in a suburb of Los Angeles with 2 brothers and a sister and I was the second eldest child. Both of my parents were blue-collar workers and were always under financial stress, with too much month left at the end of the money.
My home environment was very dysfunctional and highly stressed because my dad was abusive with regular violent outbursts. On top of the physical and psychological abuse, he was a sexual predator/pedophile and singled me out from when I was 7 years old to age 14.
Somehow I found my inner strength and voice and told him it would happen no more; that it was wrong and I would no longer tolerate it. I think the fear that I might tell someone kept him at bay. I wish I could say that life got rosey after that but the other types of abuse continued until I was successful at running away. Of course, there’s lots more to tell about this, but I think I’ll save it for my book! I always told myself I’d write it after he died, which he did in July of this year.
What is something you wish you would’ve realized earlier in your life?
I wish I had realized that I had my own voice and that it was okay to be me unapologetically and not need approval from someone or anyone else. I wish I had learned to stand up for myself sooner.
What are bad recommendations you hear in your profession or area of expertise?
I wish we were all told to be ourselves – be the same in business as in other parts of our life. There is no separation – we are what we do and if we are kind, and have integrity, and do what is right all the time then we will have success in business and in life in general.
I love the saying about how we do any one thing is how we do everything. There has never been a more true statement in my opinion and it’s probably not a surprise that my key value is integrity.
Tell me about one of the darker periods you’ve experienced in life. How you came out of it and what you learned from it?
I’ve already answered this question and my darker period was basically my childhood and yet I came out alive and thriving.
I used to think it was just luck or chance but then I learned the truth about who I am and how the God of the universe created us and loves, cares, and protects us.
Without Him in my life I know I would have turned out very differently. I am grateful every day for my life and everything in it, especially those I love and those that love me. Love is the greatest force in the universe.
What is one thing that you do that you feel has been the biggest contributor to your success so far?
Definitely my Attitude. Remember Charles Swindol’s essay on this subject? It is so good and so true – be sure to look it up and post it where you will see it every day and read it until you believe it and know it to be true.
We all have basically the same opportunities and situations in life so the difference in how we react to those things. “Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.” (See the full quote below)
What is your morning routine?
I am not a good sleeper and have suffered because of it – as we all know now because of so many sleep studies being done, sleep is huge and affects every part of our life, good or bad. It affects our attitude, our performance, our mental function our physiological system, and more.
Now that I know exactly how lack of and poor sleep have an effect on the body and especially the brain, I listen to the top experts that say to try and get at least 7-8 hours per night so I am in bed and ready to sleep by 11 pm. So my method is simple, my bedtime is about the same every night and I do everything possible to optimize my sleep.
I recommend listening to some amazing experts on this topic on Dave Asprey’s podcast.
What habit or behavior that you have pursued for a few years has most improved your life?
Lots of things and I am always trying to improve my life through my daily habits. I’ve learned that your morning routine is the most important thing you will do all day because it sets you up for the rest of the day. I address spiritual, mental, and physical fitness every morning.
I pray before I even get out of bed and connect with my maker – I begin with gratitude, then pray for my family, friends, colleagues, community, state, country, and world. I usually pray for myself last for whatever is happening in my day and I pray that I will use my time wisely and productively. I usually include a short meditation which may be at the end or at the beginning of my routine. I must say I do these things but I am not a creature of habit; I must use discipline daily to accomplish these things in the morning.
I love my healthy organic coffee followed by an intense workout in my gym downstairs with the music volume turned up. After that priming routine, I feel ready to take on the day with vigor, enthusiasm, and a keen mind.
What are your strategies for being productive and using your time most efficiently?
The strategies I use to be productive and using my time most effectively come from some of the things I’ve mentioned in the previous questions:
- Setting up my morning properly and praying for those things to happen and setting up the right environment in the morning to succeed all-day
- My attitude will help me in how I handle challenges that were not expected during the day
- My faith allows me to do the right thing because I am always striving to be my best for Him
- I use the time that has been given to me wisely and doesn’t take it for granted. This life is a precious gift and I don’t want to waste any part of it. Every person is important and valuable and deserves the same things – opportunity, dignity, care, and love.
by Charles Swindoll
“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think, say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play the one string we have, and that is our attitude… I am convinced that ==
And so it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes”
What book(s) have influenced your life the most? Why?
When I was a teenager, I found the book Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill and a few others like it on my dad’s closet shelf. Out of boredom, I read them (or at least part of them) and they planted a seed in my mind about the possibilities in life.
During the trauma of my childhood, it changed my perspective and I realized my mindset had something to do with how I saw things – especially my future. I wouldn’t fully realize this until decades later.
Do you have any quotes you live by or think of often?
I am always looking for inspiration and my two favorite inspiring quotes both come from the bible:
“I can do all things through Christ who Strengthens me” (Philippians 14:13) and “Be transformed through the renewing of your mind…” (Romans 12:2) and my own saying which is “The only limits you have are the ones you put on yourself.”
We were all created uniquely and for a purpose and because of this there will always be forces to keep us down and to keep us from reaching our potential and destiny in the world.
We make the choice of how we are going to be each day; down or inspired, lazy or invigorated, doing the minimum and just getting by or making each day count and living our full potential.
Each day builds upon the day before so it’s important to create momentum in your life and keep your eye on the prize – your purpose.