Matthew Ferry is a master life coach, spiritual teacher, best-selling author, and creator of The Rapid Enlightenment Process. He has coached thousands of top performers to achieve Enlightened Prosperity. Ferry manages a blog, hosts the podcast Daily Enlightenment with Matthew Ferry, spearheads The Ignite Mastermind, and teaches his unique process via Muscle Testing School.
Where did you grow up and what was your childhood like? Did you have any particular experiences/stories that shaped your adult life?
I grew up in Orange County California in a typical suburban lifestyle. But, when I was 9 years old I was having these extraordinary experiences where I felt like I was floating out of my body. I’ve spent the majority of my life trying to get back to the incredible state of bliss and peace that I felt when I was having those experiences. That drive shaped my behavior and was the source of my inspiration to create The Rapid Enlightenment Process.
What is something you wish you would’ve realized earlier in your life?
I wish that I would have understood that all is well when I was younger. That nothing matters. That nothing you do or I do is important or relevant. Because with that contextual framework, I could have chosen what I wanted to matter earlier in life. Instead, like most of us, I spent most of my early life living in the illusion that my survival-based activities like making money or starting a family were important, meaningful, or relevant.
What are bad recommendations you hear in your profession or area of expertise?
In my profession, the desired outcome is to experience profound states of happiness and peace. The bad advice that I often hear people give is that changing your circumstances will provide you with that happiness and peace. Unfortunately, changing your circumstances has only a marginal impact on your happiness and peace. It is only the shift in your contextual framework about life that will give you the happiness and peace that you desire.
Tell me about one of the darker periods you’ve experienced in life. How you came out of it and what you learned from it?
The darkest period of my life was when I worked in the real estate sales training industry. I was inadvertently consumed by pride and greed. It was a time in which I was convinced that if I gathered more resources, had more money, created more status, and became a valuable contributor to society that I would be fulfilled. I climbed to the top of the mountain of success only to discover that no amount of success would provide me with the goal of living a happy joyous life. I came out of that time realizing that less is more. Focusing on the experience is a more effective objective. Asking what’s important about that over and over and over until I get to the core experience that I want to have. Then, focusing on creating a life that represents the experience that I think accomplishment would give me.
What is one thing that you do that you feel has been the biggest contributor to your success so far?
The biggest contributor to my success so far in life has been my willingness to question everything. The status quo says to make money, start a family, save for retirement and one day retire a wealthy successful person. But I am someone who has spent time coaching billionaires and ultra-successful individuals. I’ve found that all the success in the world doesn’t provide you with the happiness and peace that you thought it would. Doing what you think success will give you now, even in the smallest amount, is more satisfying than working your entire life only to discover that the things you thought might satisfy you actually don’t.
What is your morning routine?
The first thing that I try to do every morning is sleep in as long as I can. When I wake up I like to spend time learning, thinking, and dreaming.
What habit or behavior that you have pursued for a few years has most improved your life?
The most empowering habit that I have worked to develop is called applied kinesiology. The common term for this is muscle testing. It has brought me great success and accomplishment over the years by being able to discern what thoughts or ideas are strengthening my physiology and what thoughts and ideas are weakening to my physiology.
What are your strategies for being productive and using your time most efficiently?
I use the Getting Things Done methodology created by David Allen. I have disciplined myself to delegate the tasks that I am not good at. I try to spend 20% of my time accomplishing tasks that are related to making my life work and function and 80% of my time in creative or spiritual endeavors. The most important discipline that I have taken on is to spend as much time as possible in silence each day. I find that the more time I spend in silence the more effective and empowered I am when I am taking action.
What book(s) have influenced your life the most? Why?
Two books that have influenced my life dramatically are both written by Dr. David Hawkins. His first book called Power vs. Force outlined his methodology for measuring consciousness so that you could predictably track where you are in your consciousness and begin to move yourself into an enlightened state.
His second book called The Eye of the I is something that I have read over and over for the last 15 years. In that book, he utilizes his methodology to distinguish the contextual framework necessary to operate in an enlightened state and maintain a persistent state of peace.
Do you have any quotes you live by or think of often?
“If an event occurs outside the domain of explanation or expected linear causality and the Newtonian paradigm, it is termed a miracle. It is an eventuality that is brought into actuality by the removal of the impediments of negativity.
This may involve the relinquishment of limiting belief systems, such as, “it’s impossible” or “it’s not deserved” or other ego viewpoints. For those who have reached higher levels of consciousness, the miraculous is not only commonplace, it is the natural course of events and becomes continuous. The miraculous comes out of creation and not causality.” David Hawkins, “The Eye of the I”.